I can't cope...

If you feel you can't cope, you are not alone. Many people have those feelings at times and it can be very painful. Take a look at the list below and see if you see yourself in any of these feelings or behaviors:

● Feeling hopeless or worthless.
● Separating yourself from others. A lot.
● Sleeping and/or eating difficulties. Too much or too little.
● Being persistently angry or stressed.
● Frequently crying.
● Not caring about school or work.
● Drinking or drugging too much.
● Hearing or seeing things that others don’t hear or see.
● Wild mood swings.
● Thoughts or plans to hurt or kill yourself or others.

If you recognize yourself in this list, the most important thing is to talk with someone, preferably a trained mental health professional. The path to feeling better begins with letting someone know you are hurting. Some situations are truly emergencies and you need to get help right away.  Other situations are less immediately critical and you can begin by making an appointment.   All mental health issues are important, and you deserve help and support no matter the urgency.

If you are in an EMERGENCY state where you might harm yourself or others, then you need to talk to someone NOW. Call one of these numbers:

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline - 1-800-273-TALK

University Police973-655-5222

Veterans Crisis Line - 1-800-273-8255 (Press 1)

 If you are having trouble, but it is not an immediate emergency:

1. Call Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS) at 973-655-5211 during business hours to make an appointment.

In the meantime, let one or more people that you feel you can trust know you are struggling.  This could be a friend, a resident counselor, a faculty member, a coach, and a parent.  Each can be a part of your support network as you move toward getting professional help.

2. Visit some websites to learn more about mental health crises.  Here are some examples:

3. Try these coping skills

Remember, getting help is a sign of strength and EVERYONE can get better.